Conversation

The word conversation is the verbalization of concepts involving abstractions and concrete objects which make up the world we live in. Also, a conversation is communication by two or more people, or by ones self. It can be very involved or just simple small talk.

Antiquity

 * In conversation avoid the extremes of forwardness and reserve.
 * Cato (234 BC - 149 BC). Quotes reported in Hoyt's New Cyclopedia Of Practical Quotations (1922), p. 137.


 * Discourse, the sweeter banquet of the mind.
 * Homer, The Odyssey, Book 15, line 433. Pope's translation. Quotes reported in Hoyt's New Cyclopedia Of Practical Quotations (1922), p. 137.


 * Rarus sermo illis et magna libido tacendi.
 * Their conversation was brief, and their desire was to be silent.
 * Juvenal, Satires (early 2nd century), II. 14.


 * We took sweet counsel together.
 * David, Psalms. LV. 14. Quotes reported in Hoyt's New Cyclopedia Of Practical Quotations (1922), p. 137.


 * Talis hominibus est oratio qualis vita.
 * Men's conversation is like their life.
 * Seneca the Younger, Epistolæ Ad Lucilium, 114.


 * Sermo animi est imago; qualis vir, talis et oratio est.
 * Conversation is the image of the mind; as the man, so is his speech.
 * Syrus, Maxims.


 * Ita fabulantur ut qui sciant Dominum audire.
 * They converse as those who know that God hears.
 * Tertullian (ca. 150-220), Apologeticus, p. 36. (Ed. Rigalt). Quotes reported in Hoyt's New Cyclopedia Of Practical Quotations (1922), p. 137.

17th century

 * There is, however, nothing wanting to the idleness of a philosopher but a better name, and that meditation, conversation, and reading should be called “work.”
 * Jean de La Bruyère, Les Caractères (1688), "Du mérite personnel", Aphorism 12.


 * L’esprit de la conversation consiste bien moins à en montrer beaucoup qu’à en faire trouver aux autres: celui qui sort de votre entretien content de soi et de son esprit, l’est de vous parfaitement. Les hommes n’aiment point à vous admirer, ils veulent plaire; ils cherchent moins à être instruits, et même réjouis, qu’à être goûtés et applaudis; et le plaisir le plus délicat est de faire celui d’autrui.
 * The true spirit of conversation consists more in bringing out the cleverness of others than in showing a great deal of it yourself; he who goes away pleased with himself and his own wit is also greatly pleased with you. Most men would rather please than admire you; they seek less to be instructed, and even to be amused, than to be praised and applauded; the most delicate of pleasures is to please another person.
 * Jean de La Bruyère, Les Caractères (1688), “Of Society and Conversation,” #16


 * A young man before he leaves the shelter of his father's house, and the guard of a tutor, should be fortify'd with resolution, and made acquainted with men, to secure his virtues, lest he should be led into some ruinous course, or fatal precipice, before he is sufficiently acquainted with the dangers of conversation, and his steadiness enough not to yield to every temptation.
 * John Locke,  (1693), Sec. 70.


 * With thee conversing I forget all time: All seasons and their change, all please alike.
 * John Milton, Paradise Lost (1667; 1674), Book IV, line 639.


 * On se forme l’esprit et le sentiment par les conversations. On se gâte l’esprit et le sentiment par les conversations. Ainsi les bonnes ou les mauvaises le forment ou le gâtent. Il importe donc de tout de les savoir choisir pour se le former et ne le point gâter; et on ne peut faire ce choix, si on ne l’a déjà formé et point gâté. Ainsi cela fait un cercle, d’où sont bienheureux ceux qui sortent.
 * Spirit and sentiment are formed by conversation. Spirit and sentiment are ruined by conversation. ... It is, then, all-important to know how to choose our society in order to form rather than ruin them; and one cannot make this choice unless one has already formed them and not ruined them. Thus a circle is formed, and those are fortunate who escape it.
 * Blaise Pascal, Pensées (1670), #6

18th century

 * Method is not less requisite in ordinary conversation than in writing, provided a man would talk to make himself understood.
 * Joseph Addison, The Spectator, No. 476 (5 September 1712).


 * With good and gentle humour'd hearts I choose to chat where e'er I come; Whate'er the subject be that starts; But if I get among the glum, I hold my tongue to tell the troth, And keep my breath to cool my broth.
 * John Byrom, "Careless Content", Stanza II, in Miscellaneous Poems by John Byrom (Manchester: J. Harrop, 1773), Vol. I, p. 78.


 * But conversation, choose what theme we may, And chiefly when religion leads the way, Should flow, like waters after summer show'rs, Not as if raised by mere mechanic powers.
 * William Cowper, Conversation (1782), line 703.


 * With thee conversing, I forget the way.
 * John Gay, Trivia, or The Art of Walking the Streets of London (1716), Book II: "On Walking the Streets by Day", line 480.


 * I never, with important air, In conversation overbear.   *    *    *    * My tongue within my lips I rein; For who talks much must talk in vain.
 * John Gay, Fables (1727), Part I. Introduction, line 53.


 * They would talk of nothing but high life and high-lived company, with other fashionable topics, such as pictures, taste, Shakespeare, and the musical glasses.
 * Oliver Goldsmith, The Vicar of Wakefield (1766), Chapter IX.


 * Tom Birch is as brisk as a bee in conversation; but no sooner does he take a pen in his hand, than it becomes a torpedo to him, and benumbs all his faculties.
 * Samuel Johnson (1743), reported in James Boswell, Life of Johnson (1791).


 * Questioning is not the mode of conversation among gentlemen.
 * Samuel Johnson (1776), reported in James Boswell, Life of Johnson (1791).


 * His conversation does not show the minute hand—but he generally strikes the hour very correctly.
 * Samuel Johnson, about Henry Thrale, as reported in The Beauties of Samuel Johnson, LL. D. (London: G. Kearsley, 1787), p. xlvii.
 * Also reported in Johnsoniana (London: John Murray, 1836), § 604, p. 396, but with the word "generally" omitted.


 * Who sedulously attends, pointedly asks, calmly speaks, coolly answers, and ceases when he has no more to say, is in possession of some of the best requisites of man.
 * Johann Kaspar Lavater, Aphorisms on Man, translated by Henry Fuseli (London: J. Johnson, 1788), Aphorism 125, pp. 47–48.


 * That silence is one of the great arts of conversation is allowed by Cicero himself, who says, there is not only an art, but even an eloquence in it.
 * Hannah More, "Thoughts on Conversation", in Essays on Various Subjects (London: J. Wilkie and T. Cadell, 1777), p. 42.


 * Form'd by thy converse, happily to steer From grave to gay, from lively to severe.
 * Alexander Pope, An Essay on Man (1733-34), Epistle IV, line 379.


 * It is a secret known but to few, yet of no small use in the conduct of life, that when you fall into a man's conversation, the first thing you should consider is, whether he has a greater inclination to hear you, or that you should hear him.
 * Richard Steele, The Spectator, No. 49 (26 April 1711).


 * Writing, when properly managed (as you may be sure I think mine is), is but a different name for conversation.
 * Laurence Sterne, Tristram Shandy (1759–1757), Book 2, Ch. 11.


 * And surely one of the best rules in conversation is, never to say a thing which any of the company can reasonably wish had been left unsaid…
 * Jonathan Swift, "Hints Toward an Essay on Conversation" (c1713), in The Works of Jonathan Swift (London: J. Johnson, 1801), Vol. V, p. 233.


 * A dearth of words a woman need not fear; But 'tis a task indeed to learn to hear: In that the skill of conversation lies; That shows or makes you both polite and wise.
 * Edward Young, Love of Fame (1725-28), Satire V, line 57.

19th century

 * Many can argue, not many converse.
 * Amos Bronson Alcott, Concord Days (Boston: Roberts Brothers, 1872), "Conversation", p. 75.


 * Conversation presupposes a common sympathy in the subject, a great equality in the speakers; absence of egotism, a tender criticism of what is spoken.
 * Amos Bronson Alcott, Concord Days (Boston: Roberts Brothers, 1872), "Conversation", p. 75.


 * Egotists cannot converse, they talk to themselves only.
 * Amos Bronson Alcott, Concord Days (Boston: Roberts Brothers, 1872), "Conversation", p. 76


 * Conversation is a game of circles.
 * Ralph Waldo Emerson, Essays: First Series (1841), Essay X: "Circles".


 * When we are in the company of sensible men we ought to be doubly cautious of talking too much, lest we lose two good things, their good opinion, and our own improvement, and disclose one thing which had better have been concealed, our self-sufficiency; for what we have to say we know, but what they have to say we know not.
 * Charles Caleb Colton, Lacon; or Many Things in Few Words: Addressed to Those Who Think, revised edition (1836), Vol II: CCXXXVI.


 * Conversation is the laboratory and workshop of the student.
 * Ralph Waldo Emerson, Society and Solitude: Twelve Chapters (Boston: Fields, Osgood, & Co., 1870), Ch. 9: "Clubs", p. 133.


 * Inject a few raisins of conversation into the tasteless dough of existence.
 * O. Henry (1862–1910), The Complete Life of John Hopkins. Quotes reported in Hoyt's New Cyclopedia Of Practical Quotations (1922), p. 137.


 * And, when you stick on conversation's burs, Don't strew your pathway with those dreadful urs.
 * Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr., Urania: A Rhymed Lesson (Boston: William D. Ticknor & Company, 1846), p. 22.


 * What are the great faults of conversation? Want of ideas, want of words, want of manners, are the principal ones, I suppose you think. I don't doubt it, but I will tell you what I have found spoil more good talks than anything else;- long arguments on special points between people who differ on the fundamental principles upon which these points depend. No men can have satisfactory relations with each other until they have agreed on certain ultimata [finalities] of belief not to be disturbed in ordinary conversation, and unless they have sense enough to trace the secondary questions depending upon these ultimate beliefs to their source. In short, just as a written constitution is essential to the best social order, so a code of finalities is a necessary condition of talk between two persons.
 * Oliver Wendell Holmes, Sr., The Autocrat of the Breakfast-Table (1858), Chapter I.


 * Ill nature is to conversation what oil is to the lamp—the only thing that keeps it alive.
 * Letitia Elizabeth Landon, Romance and Reality (1831), Volume 1, Chapter 9.


 * A single conversation across the table with a wise man is better than ten years' study of books.
 * Henry Wadsworth Longfellow, Hyperion (1839), Chapter VII. Quoted from the Chinese.


 * Men of great conversational powers almost universally practise a sort of lively sophistry and exaggeration which deceives for the moment both themselves and their auditors.
 * Thomas Babington Macaulay, 1st Baron Macaulay (1800–59), Essay, On the Athenian Orators. Quotes reported in Hoyt's New Cyclopedia Of Practical Quotations (1922), p. 137.


 * One specialist ... may be of the greatest use in conversation. A set of specialists when they get together are either unintelligible to the average mind or exceedingly tedious.
 * John Pentland Mahaffy, Conversation (1896), p. 30


 * If ... we meet a man of acknowledged mental superiority, whether generally or in his special department, it is our social duty by intelligent questioning, by an anxiety to learn from him, to force him to condescend to our ignorance, or join in our fun, till his broader sympathies are awakened, and he plays with us as if we were children. Indeed this very metaphor points out one of the very remarkable instances of social equality asserted by an inferior—I mean the outspoken freedom of the child—which possesses a peculiar charm, and often thaws the dignity or dissipates the reserve of the great man and woman whose superiority is a perpetual obstacle to them in ordinary society.
 * John Pentland Mahaffy, Conversation (1896), p. 104


 * The same thing has been said by all whom Prometheus has formed out of better clay. What pleasure could they find in the company of people with whom their only common ground is just what is lowest and least noble in their own nature—the part of them that is commonplace, trivial and vulgar? What do they want with people who cannot rise to a higher level, and for whom nothing remains but to drag others down to theirs?
 * Arthur Schopenhauer, Counsels and Maxims, T. B. Saunders, trans., § 9


 * The pith of conversation does not consist in exhibiting your own superior knowledge on matters of small consequence, but in enlarging, improving, and correcting the information you possess, by the authority of others.
 * Walter Scott, Quentin Durward (1823), Author's Introduction.


 * In our lives the revolutions that take place in the soul often derive from a specific day, or hour, or from an unforeseen but memorable conversation which disturbs us and plants new seeds that slowly grow, and of which the rest of our actions are simply the consequences and natural development.
 * Alfred de Vigny, Servitude and Grandeur of Arms (Servitude et grandeur militaires, 1835), translated by Roger Gard (Harmondsworth: Penguin, 1996), Book 3, Ch. 6, p. 133.

20th century

 * CONVERSATION, n. A fair to the display of the minor mental commodities, each exhibitor being too intent upon the arrangement of his own wares to observe those of his neighbor.
 * Ambrose Bierce, The Cynic's Dictionary (1906); republished as The Devil's Dictionary (1911).


 * Communication can only take place among equals.
 * Kenneth Boulding (1974). Collected Papers: Toward a general social science. L.D. Singell ed. p. 240.


 * The Great Conversation began before the beginnings of experimental science. But the birth of the Conversation and the birth of science were simultaneous. The earliest of the pre-Socratics were investigating and seeking to understand natural phenomena; among them were men who used mathematical notions for this purpose. Even experimentation is not new; it has been going on for hundreds of years. But faith in experimentation as an exclusive method is a modern manifestation. ...it is now regarded in some quarters... as the sole method of obtaining knowledge of any kind.
 * Robert Maynard Hutchins (1954) Great Books: The Foundation of a Liberal Education.


 * Do you know that conversation is one of the greatest pleasures in life? But it wants leisure.
 * W. Somerset Maugham (1921) The Trembling of a Leaf, ch. 3.


 * British conversation is like a game of cricket or a boxing match; personal allusions are forbidden like hitting below the belt, and anyone who loses his temper is disqualified.
 * André Maurois (1939) Un Art de Vivre (The Art of Living).


 * Each word is a singularity, or is connected with a singularity, in our way of understanding existence.
 * Léon Rosenfeld (1904–74) As quoted in A Question of Physics: Conversations in Physics and Biology (1979), Paul Buckley and F. David Peat, Routledge and Kegan Paul, London, p. 29.


 * Eloquence is a republican art, as conversation is an aristocratic one.
 * George Santayana, Character and Opinion in the United States (1920), p. 7


 * There is no such thing as conversation. It is an illusion. There are intersecting monologues, that is all.
 * Rebecca West, The Harsh Voice, (1935).


 * Conversation is imperative if gaps are to be filled, and old age, it is the last gap but one.
 * Patrick White (1955) The Tree of Man.


 * A philosopher who is not taking part in discussions is like a boxer who never goes into the ring.
 * Ludwig Wittgenstein (1981) Personal Recollections. Conversation of 1930.

21st century

 * …a difficult dialogue is better than [having] no dialogue.
 * Massimo Introvigne, "International Religious Freedom Summit’s Aftermath: Battle Over Ukraine", Bitter Winter (August 12, 2021)