Homoparentality

Homoparents are LGBT people raising one or more children.


 * At the Democratic convention, in the United States, I listened to the speech of a young man who was very confident, very serene, very calm, very... bright, I would say. He, I don't remember his name, said in his speech that he was the son of two mothers. And he said it simply, without too much emphasis. He didn't seem like a freak to me. It seemed normal to me. (Mina)
 * Sometimes I ask myself questions too. Here we are talking about love towards children, who have the right to love. That can come from a man and a woman, God forbid, but I ask myself: why can't that love come from two men or two women and instead can it be given by seven nuns? This is a question I ask myself. Why not? Why? (Paolo Bonolis)
 * As experience shows, the absence of sexual bipolarity creates obstacles to the normal development of children possibly placed within these unions. They lack the experience of motherhood or fatherhood. Inserting children into homosexual unions through adoption actually means doing violence to these children in the sense that their state of weakness is taken advantage of to introduce them into environments that do not favor their full human development. Certainly such a practice would be seriously immoral and would be in open contradiction with the principle, also recognized by the UN International Convention on the Rights of the Child, according to which the best interest to be protected in any case is that of the child, the most weak and defenseless (from the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, Considerations regarding the projects for the legal recognition of unions between homosexual people)
 * It was a beautiful gift to Italy to have prevented two people of the same sex, who are prevented by nature, from having the possibility of having a child. We prevented an anti-natural and anthropological revolution and I believe it was our achievement. (Angelino Alfano)
 * It is too simplistic to believe that a child, to grow in a balanced way, needs the presence of a father and a mother of different sexes. No scientific research demonstrates that being the children of homosexuals is dangerous for the acquisition of one's gender identity. The truth is that society needs time to adapt to changes: just think of what happened 30 years ago to the children of separated people, who felt uncomfortable and tried to hide their reality. Now, however, being separated children is almost normal. (Umberto Veronesi)
 * I have met wonderful same-parent families in America and a couple here, and it is certain that overseas they have a much better chance of living like so-called "normal" families. Even on the 'gestation for others', the horrible term uterus for rent, my position is one of great acceptance, even if I would never resort to it or give it to myself. But for me individual freedoms are above everything. (Enrica Bonaccorti)
 * After all, what establishes relationships is essentially the emotional relationship, that is, love. Let's stop thinking that homosexuals are essentially "sexual". First of all, they are emotional, they have significant cohabitation relationships just like heterosexual families. They can very well adopt children because it is not necessarily the case that two people of the same sex are "bad". And children need love, not necessarily sexual differences. Let them stop saying that the family is made up of a man and a woman, because this is a fundamentally materialist vision, defended by Catholics who always talk about the spirit. Because if the criterion of being together is simply to bring children into the world, then this is the most sinister materialism. While being together also has the meaning of loving each other, of dedicating oneself to an educational work. [...] children are children not because you sleep with a woman and the woman sleeps with a man, they are children because you raise them, because you are together [with them], because you answer their questions, because you pay attention to their needs. This means "fatherhood" and "motherhood", whoever it is carried out by. (Umberto Galimberti)
 * Italy, compared to other countries, is not used to this debate: however, I believe that the presence of a woman, of a mother, is fundamental. (Cristiano Malgioglio)
 * The natural family is under attack. They want to dominate us and erase our people. (Lorenzo Fontana)
 * My mother was a widow and I am gay, but I know many other children of widowed mothers who, despite missing their father, did not become gay. After all, I am convinced that for a child almost anything is better than an orphanage. Nor can we pursue perfect family balance. It is sufficient that the adopters are normally civilized, not sadists who slice up creatures, that they have an income to support them, without necessarily having to be an Agnelli. (Gianni Vattimo)
 * We parents, [...] hetero couples, know well that the serenity of children is not dictated by having a mother and a father. Their serenity begins precisely from the feeling of love and understanding that is felt in the family and, instead, it often happens that we parents, instead of helping them, contribute with our fears to instill taboos and insecurities that they would not have. It is not easy to be a parent, even less to be a good parent, but sexuality is certainly not the discriminating factor between a good parent and a bad parent. These are just lies dictated by fear of change. Meanwhile, the world changes anyway and will change again. (Manuela Repetti)
 * I speak as an open homosexual. [...] I conceive the family [...] in the traditional sense of the term, that is, made up of a father and a mother because nature wanted it that way. (Alfonso Signorini)
 * For too long schools have been afraid to intervene, while in truth there are delicate methods to explain to children, already in primary school, that some of them have two mothers and others two fathers, as in the case of our son. (Elton John)
 * What children need is adult, mature and responsible love from parents who put their needs before their own and who at the same time know how to set the right limits for them and help them grow. Growing up with two women or two men is no problem. In the Middle Ages many children grew up in monasteries with only women or only men and many of them became saints. (Teresa Forcades)
 * ...compared to love, affective availability equally belongs to different behavioral genres. What does it matter if they are two men with a child, or a man and a woman, or two women? I don't know who is able to decide how it is right to love. (Paolo Bonolis)
 * [On the detractors of the Cirinnà bill who oppose homoparentality to the family of the Christian tradition] If you consider in which family Jesus was born, you realize [that] Mary conceives from a sacred entity outside of marriage, Joseph adopts - because "putative father" means "adoptive father" - a son who is not his and he does so out of love for his wife. And faced with this situation [...] the Cirinnà bill becomes fresh water. (Corrado Augias)
 * I am in favor of civil unions but children are not a right. And they can't be bought. Point. Anyone who disagrees respects the opinions of others. (Lorella Cuccarini)
 * I'm gay, I can't have a child. I believe that you can't have everything in life, if it isn't there it means it shouldn't be there. It's also nice to deprive yourself of something. Life has its own natural path, there are things that should not be changed. And one of these is family. (Domenico Dolce)


 * Sull'adozione dei figli istintivamente trovo più indicate le figure tradizionali di un uomo e di una donna. Provo a pensare all'equilibrio necessario ai ragazzi, ma è un tema complicato. Non è che si possa sostenere che una coppia eterosessuale sia per forza in grado di dare più amore a un bambino. (Claudio Marchisio)
 * When it comes to adopting children, I instinctively find the traditional figures of a man and a woman more suitable. I try to think about the balance needed by kids, but it's a complicated topic. It's not that we can argue that a heterosexual couple is necessarily capable of giving more love to a child. (Claudio Marchisio)
 * [On the contrast between those who are in favor of civil unions and homoparenting and those who are against] [...] I would like someone to explain to me what the traditional family is. That of 5th century Athens? The one in Sparta? The one in Rome? [...] The patriarchal one of fifty years ago? That "wife, husband, son-two sons"? Is that? Is that the traditional family of the last fifty years? [...] The family is a socio-cultural product. [...] It is therefore completely clear that its concept is changing. [...] it would be necessary for these transformations [...] to take place with a minimum [...] of cultural foundation, of awareness, of conscience. Not in the face of "We want everything" and everything that comes to mind is a "natural right" because then two "naturalisms" are opposed: the Catholic one which is totally absurd because anything can be a Christian except a "naturalist "; and the one on the other side of the so-called "natural rights" which are a ghost [...] (Massimo Cacciari)

Related entries:

 * Adoption by same-sex couples
 * Same-sex marriage
 * Homosexuality
 * Civil union